I had my first Phat Camp this weekend at my house. We had an awesome time and learned so much about each other and fitness. This week I want to focus on one topic daily that came up this weekend. Today we’re it’s taking compliments.
From the moment my girls (and one hunky husband…and I mean he looks as good as wife says he does) started arriving, I was SHOCKED at how awesome they looked. To hear them tell it they were a flabby mess and just years away from their goals. Whatever! They were hot and so much fitter than what they described. Pictures don’t even do them justice!!!
I just didn’t understand it. Here is a hot group of women in front of me with their heads hung low and feeling self-conscious. The first day we would pay compliments to each other and the first thing that would fly out of our mouths, me included, was “well I really need to lose these thighs.” Or, “only if my gut looked good.” I didn’t realize how bad I do it myself!!! To think, me, drowning in good ole fat girl thinking.
Finally I stopped everyone mid-workout and said from this point forward I didn’t want to hear one more person say anything negative about themselves. When someone pays you a compliment you look them in the eye and say, “Thank you! I’ve been working very hard.” You know what? They did it and I feel sure that just one day of accepting the truth rather than denying it made them feel better about themselves. I know it made me feel better. I’ve got a big ego as it is and now it’s even better. Woohoo!
I don’t care if you are just beginning or you are at the end of the fat loss journey, start taking compliments and quit dismissing them. It wears on your psyche to deny that you work hard, eat right, and look good. You deserve to hear those things and people really mean it. Even if you don’t believe it just fake it til you make it. You know why? The last thing you want to do is finally reach your fat loss goal and feel miserable about your looks. You gotta start NOW changing how you think. It’s a long process so use your whole journey to learn how to believe in yourself.
I want everyone to repeat after me: I promise that for the next week I will say…
“Thank you. I have been working very hard!!!”
And, I know if you do my schedules that you certainly back that statement up. All you Let’s Get It Started, Big Mo’s, and Work It Out people cannot ever say you don’t work hard. Be proud of yourself and allow all the great things you deserve into your life. You owe it to yourself.